Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Emetophobia {Frequent Frustration}

Ok guys I am going to open up to you again. I must really trust you or something. My name is Whitney and I have Emetophobia. What is this Emetophobia you ask?

 Here is how wikipedia defines it: "(from the  Greek εμετός, to vomit, and φόβος (phóbos), meaning "fear") is an intense, irrational fear or anxiety pertaining to vomiting. This specific phobia an also include subcategories of what causes the anxiety, including a fear of vomiting in public, a fear of seeing vomit, a fear of watching the action of vomiting or fear of being nauseated. Emetophobia is clinically considered an “elusive predicament” because limited research has been done pertaining to it.The fear of vomiting receives little attention compared with other irrational fears People with emetophobia frequently report a vomit related traumatic event, such as a long bout of stomach flu, accidentally vomiting in public, or having to witness someone else vomit, as the start of the emetophobia. This typically occurs in the teenage years and affects predominately females."

Crazy and super weird right? This is not just not liking vomit, because hello no body likes vomit, this is a fear and serious condition. I honestly have a fear of vomit. I fear throwing up, I fear smelling it, seeing it, hearing it or any of the above. So how in the heck am I a mother? Well lets just say that it is a good thing they don't throw up everyday or I just don't know what I would do. I have no problem with baby spit up, that doesn't even phase me but the real food toddler and older throw up I really have a hard time handling. I get all shaky, my stomach instantly hurts, I cry, panic and have a serious all out panic attack. I know it is kind of ridiculous I really try not to let it affect me but it happens and I seriously have no control. The first time Maddux threw up I went into mommy mode cleaned it up, laid him back down for a nap, and I felt like I was pretty put together then as soon as I laid him down I had a total break down. I sobs uncontrollably and every time since I am a complete wreck. I am hoping things will just get easier and I will just get used to it since I have two kids no and plan on having more. They will get sick sometimes there is nothing I can do about that and Ty won't always be here to clean it up or take care of them. So I am really really praying I get over this at some point. The problem is the older I get I feel like the worse it gets.

I never had a traumatic event when it comes to vomit and I don't really know how it started. I haven't thrown up in 3 years and before that it had been six. I only threw up once when I was pregnant with Maddux and never did with Holden. It is not like I didn't feel like I was going to all the time I just had to talk myself out of it. Every time I get a stomach bug I talk myself out of it. Every time someone is sick and I found out and they are around me I freak and I will avoid them at all costs. Every time Maddux doesn't eat very well, has a weird stool, or starts coughing I automatically think he is sick and going to throw up it sucks so bad. You guys I can't even watch the part where she pukes in
Pitch Perfect! What the heck!!!!

So what am I going to do about it? Well I am not really sure. There isn't much you can do. Some say that anxiety medication helps and some say that therapy can help just like any other phobia. So I am going to look into some options and see but for now I am just trying to deal with it.

 Does anyone else have this fear? Or am I completely alone here?

Monday, February 25, 2013

6:25PM on a Wednesday {Roll Call}

The good thing about Wednesday is that it's closer to Friday than Monday. Yay for Hump Day! Come see how we spent our midweek evening at Undone.

{The Undone Blog} Real Life Mom Fashion - 6:25 PM on a Wednesday

Read more to get the deets! 

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Free Printable Oscars Ballot!

It's Oscars time! Who is planing a fun Oscars party? Or maybe you're just going to hang out in your sweats with a bowl of popcorn. Either way, everyone has their picks, and if you a fan of the Academy Awards, you're going to LOVE this awesome ballot that our super talented friend Erin created! And because she's so awesome she wants to share it with all of our readers for free! 

Thanks Erin your the best! Don't forget to pin this and share it with your other Oscar loving friends!

Free Printable Oscars Ballot

Friday, February 22, 2013

Journaling {Daily Diaries}

If you know me well, you know that I love to keep a journal. I have kept a journal since I was about 9-10 years old. I'm not good at expressing my feelings and emotions outwardly, so I found a way to express them through writing. It's taken me a long time to get into a routine and having a baby has kind of messed that up a bit. I don't write nearly as often as I used to, and when I do write I don't get nearly as detailed as I used to. It's a shame. Really. Here are most of my journals to date.

Let me tell you about some of the benefits of journaling. And these are my benefits, they might not work for you. And some of the benefits I mention, you might be like "Uh, you're cray cray." You be the judge.

Benefit #1: Journaling helps me express my emotions in a healthy way. I've never been good at expressing my feelings/emotions. When I don't get that 'let out' it really effects me. My mind seems like a tangled up mess. I'm short with people and I just can't think straight. But after I journal my mind feels at peace. (just a little :)) There is something to this, honestly.

Benefit #2: Journaling helps me remember the good times AND the bad times. Which I think is really important. You have to experience the bad to remember how good the good times are. Recording the bad times help me realize how blessed I really am. Also, I have the WORST memory ever. So I make an extra effort to write in my journal when something good happens. That way I can remember exactly how I felt, what was said, who was there etc. It helps me remember how I felt the first time I saw Jared. Or the first time I held Grace. It also helps me remember how not to act in certain situations. Or what not to say to Jared when he doesn't put his dirty dishes in the dishwasher. Lol! Seriously though. My journal has more deep thoughts than just those. But you get the gist.

Benefit #3: Journaling helps me feel reassured that my posterity will know who I am, what I liked, what I believed, what mistakes I made, what triumphs I had etc, long after I'm gone. And that makes me happy! I didn't come to earth just live and die. I'm here to leave a bit of a legacy. I want whoever reads my journals one day to learn from my mistakes. To know that they're not alone. That I went through a similar experience. Whatever. It's comforting to know that my words will always be here on this earth. Unless my journals are burned in a terrible fire. Then...well obviously I will only be a distant memory. Haha!

Benefit #4: Journaling has no rhyme or reason. I can control what I write, when I write it, and why I write. It's all up to me. And I'm in full control, baby! It's the one thing in my life that can control. And it makes me feel good! HAILEY POWERRRRRRRR!!!!

Benefit #5: Journaling is like having your personal therapist in the palm of your hands. I feel like when you can just talk something out to someone...and they don't say anything back. They just listen. You can figure things out for yourself. You are usually the best advice giver for yourself. You know who you are. You know deep down how to handle a certain situation. You are in control of how you react. So writing things down and just getting them out in the open can help you solve problems. All without being judged my someone else! See? Personal therapist. No judging. Win win!!!

So these are just some reasons why I journal. I hope that you might try journaling if you think one of these reasons might help you out!

Some times I pick up my pen and put it to paper and I think ".....I have nothing to write about...". Which is always false. If you get writers block try writing about a certain friend or family member. Did someone have a birthday recently? Write about them! Did you go to the grocery store and find a treat that you used to eat as a kid? (Dunk-a-roos! Dollar General. I loved those! Hahahaa! See?!)  Did you read a friends FB status that made you mad? Or did you read an article online that really touched your heart? All of those things can spark a little something and make a domino effect. And your pen starts to write!

Now that I'm a mommy and I don't get much time/don't remember to write until it drives me insane, I only write down the essentials. Right now I have 2 journals that I write in. One is a "Smash Journal" and the other is just a regular journal that I bought at Barnes and Nobel. Ok, If you haven't heard of smash journals, here is a little education! A smash journal really has no rhyme or reason at all! You can pick any page to write on, write where ever you want to write etc. It's not formal. Smash journals come with a pen. It has a nice felt tip pen on one end and a glue stick on the other end. You can glue in pictures, ticket stubs, love notes. Whatever. You can purchase smash journal "flare" which is pretty much scrapbook stuff. It just makes it more fun :) I don't do a lot of that, but I love the fact that it's not formal and I can just pick a page and write. The current Smash Journal that I have is themed towards babies. So I write about Grace in this one. I write about my hopes and dreams for her, what kind of food is her current favorite, what words or phrases she says, how she stops to hug my leg when she knows I'm sad.

Here is my Smash Journal

Here is the pen/glue stick.

Here is one page I've written for/about her.

Our first Christmas card that I glued in :)

A page full of all of her things that she's done/things that've happened to her.

One of my favorite pages. Still blank. I'm sure I will find something to write about soon.

Some flare. (Sorry it's blurry.)

I plan on giving her this journal someday. I'm trying to decide if I should give it to her after she
graduates high school or when she is a mommy....I guess I will know the right time. I'm excited!

Ok so for my formal journal I write things that are more serious. How I feel about mine and Jared's relationship, what kind of a person I want to be, how I want others to perceive me, how I'm feeling spiritually etc. I really let me feelings out. I don't hold back. And It feels great.

Try keeping one of those journaling benefits in mind when you write in your journal next and hopefully it will help give you some more motivation! Journaling is tough. It takes practice. But I promise, you will benefit from it for forever if you do! It's definitely benefited my life greatly. It helps my undone nature feel a little more "done up!". But lets face it. Being udone is the norm! Remember, we are progressing when we aren't perfect. Life is all about being Undone.

Good Luck Journaling!!!

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Keeping it Cool {Frequent Frustrations}

Yikes! So far today is not going my way. Quinn has a particular high pitched scream that just makes me want to scream right back at her, and she's been employing it quite a bit this morning. Blah! How do other moms keep it together? Because I'm falling apart. I've done my own screaming already and it hasn't brought me any solace. My head is pounding and my ears are ringing, not to mention I'm feeling straight up grumpy.

Poor Quinn, I just wish I knew what she was whining about so I could make her stop! Darren says I give in to her too much, and I know it's true, but honestly, I can't deal with the screaming and whining. You want 5 fruit snacks? I know I said no more 3 snacks ago, but if it will keep you from making that awful sound you can have 100!

The thing is, the longer she cries and screams, the more cranky I get, and then the more likely I am to just explode! I'll be honest, I lose my cool sometimes. I just yell and stomp off like I'm the 2-year-old (disclosure, I never hit or spank my kids or anything abusive, I just cry and melt down and maybe let out a scream or two of my own).  I swear, the frequency of that scream is fine tuned to the frustration center of my brain. It triggers extreme unhappiness and mind numbing headaches every time I hear it. Darren says to just ignore it, but the thing is I can't! That sound gets under my skin like nothing else. I keep thinking this is a horrible evolutionary development, the sound a child makes shouldn't be designed to drive the mother into an institution!

So tell me other moms, how do you keep your cool? I used to be a much more patient person. I never remember having this problem with Parker. I don't know why I can't keep it together anymore! In all honesty I think it might have to do with being a stay at home mom now. There's a constant exposure to the not so fun side of children.  I used to have a lot of things going on in my life, college, work, homework, ect, and I think I just had more things to divert my thoughts too when Parker would throw a tantrum. Or maybe I get upset when I can't control the situation. When I don't know how to or can't stop the whining it's really hard for me. I don't know, I just don't like it, and I don't want to feel like a crazy person anymore. Tell me how to regain my patience, or at least numb the headaches!

Oh, and I guess I don't want my daughter to be a spoiled brat from getting everything she wants all the time... HELP ME!

Monday, February 18, 2013

11:24PM on a Thursday {Roll Call}

We hope you all had a fun Valentine's Day! Did you get to have a romantic night out or did you stay in and snuggle with the kids?  We're here to share what we were up to just before bedtime on V-Day. 

{The UNDONE Blog} Real Life Mom Fashion - 11:24 PM on a Thursday

Read all about our Valentine's Day! 

Sunday, February 17, 2013

What to Wear? {Daily Diaries}

I meant to post this on Valentine's day, but I'm sure everyone knows how things can get when it's a holiday and you've got tons on your list. Anyway, I hope everyone had a great V-Day and in honor of this loving holiday I decided to do a little post about my V-Day attire. Originally Darren and I didn't really have anything planned for Valentine's Day (we're exciting, I know), but then my sister ended up being able to babysit for us so we decided to get tickets to a murder mystery dinner! And a fun date means I need to actually dress myself for the day! Okay, okay, I would have done that anyway since it's a special day and all. I planned to at least be out of PJ's before Darren got home.... but since we went out I decided to dress up a bit.

Now comes the fun part - NOT! Have you ever bought something even though you had absolutely nothing in your closet to go with it? Yeah... that's what I did with this skirt.

{The UNDONE Blog} Pleated Skirt

I found this cutie on clearance before Christmas, and even though I had no clue what to wear with it I just loved it, so I bought it anyway. Then it sat in my closet for 2 months. Wah.. wah... It wasn't just that I didn't have anything to go with it, but I didn't even know what to put with it. I have to be honest, this skirt is a little bit of a leap for me style-wise, but I made a tiny goal to branch out with my look. So I was determined to finally wear this skirt!

Ah, but what to wear with it? I decided to try to pair it with something from my boring closet, so let's find out how style inept I am. No one laugh.

But before I show you what I actually decided on, check out the mess I made in the process. I think I tried on half the shirts I own.

{The UNDONE Blog} Making messes while getting dressed

I've seen a lot of cute looks around Pinterest with a skirt like mine paired with a cute button up blouse - usually tucked in. But I don't have anything like that. And I can't find anything like that. Annnnnnnd, I don't know if I'm a huge fan of tucking in with this skirt on me. I feel like to make it look cute tucked in I have to pull it up a little higher and then it's just so short. But THIS girl looks amazing! 

Source: via Tiffany on Pinterest

Too bad I don't want to wear a skirt that short... and I don't have that cute shirt. So I tried to pull something else together. This is what I settled on

{The UNDONE Blog} what to wear with a pleated skirt

The best thing about this is that I had just bought this shirt the day before Valentine's day. Only $3 at Target! Maybe I only chose it this night because it was new. I was originally leaning towards a black cardigan, but I just wasn't feeling it anymore. I felt like I was going to a funeral with the black tights and the sweater, and I for sure wanted to wear the tights, so I ditched the cardigan. Maybe next time. After I finally decided on a top I didn't know if I should tuck or not. I almost wore the shirt tucked in, but at the last minute decided I like the untucked version better - mostly due to the issues I talked about earlier. I can't decide if this look is cute or grandma. What do you think? I guess that's what going out of my comfort zone gets me! But I'm happy I finally wore my skirt, even if I wasn't 100% confident in my whole outfit. I know Quinn liked it at least, she kept fluffing my skirt and saying "Oh princess!" So I'll take her seal of approval :) 

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Valentine's Day with the kids

We would love a Valentines day with just the hubby in a fancy hotel, complete with a couples massage, some sort or sparkling drink, maybe a bubble bath, swimming, watching a movie or a fancy restaurant or a trip just the two of you and sometimes this happens and it is special and unforgettable but we can't do that every year and then we have kids and we can't find a babysitter, or we have a baby that needs to be nursed or its on a school night. This doesn't mean we can't have fun on Valentines Day with the kids and even make it all about the kids and then when they go to bed you can pop in a movie and have that sparkling drink just the two of you. Today I am going to share some fun things you can do on Valentines day as a family that will make it special and fun for everyone.

 Source: Unknown
1. You can start out the day with a special Valentine's breakfast. Get heart themed paper goods at the dollar store, maybe have some heart balloons. Then make some pink pancakes with just a little food coloring and if you really want to make it fun make them heart shapes, with some red bacon and some strawberries complete with strawberry (pink) milk.  Don't you think your kids would think this is so fun to start out the day? I know Maddux would love it and Ty would too.

2. If your kids are in school you can put it a special valentines treat like these: HERE and HERE complete with a little note saying "Happy Valentines Day" and tell they why you love them.

Source: Lindt
3. Dinner can be both romantic for the husband and fun for the kids. This year I thought it would be really fun to do my own Melting Pot dinner at home. Complete with an appetizer of spinach fondue with bread to dip, Caesar salad, Pork tenderloin with some yummy warm sauce to dip it in, and of course end the meal with some strawberries, marshmallows, and cheesecake dipped in some chocolate fondue. Your hubby will love this well because it is delicious and your little ones will think it is fun to dip everything all meal time.

Source: Google images
4. You can even take the whole family out on a date. I was thinking you could go to a movie, ice skating or do a fun activity such a bowling. We are going to be taking our kids bowling tomorrow after dinner. It will be fun for everyone in the family.

Source: Google image
5. Gift exchanging with your hubby is fun and you could of course still do this but why not get the kids just a little V-day gift to show them how much you love them. A shirt, a little inexpensive toy, or a movie with a little treat would be perfect.

I hope I was able to give you some fun ideas that you will be able to get your kids involved in during the Valentine's day festivities tomorrow. Whether it is just you and your hubby or your whole family celebrating together I hope you all have a fun and happy Valentine's day! Spread the LOVE!

Monday, February 11, 2013

1:56PM on a Wednesday {Roll Call}

What does 1:56 PM on a weekday mean to you? To some of us it is time for errands for others it is our time while the littles nap.

Click on to see what we were wearing and what we did:

Friday, February 8, 2013

Craving Balance {Frequent Frustrations}

As you know, last weekend I attended Time Out For Women. I learned SO much. I loved all of the speakers and their messages. There was one speaker though, that really touched my heart. Let me start out by telling you all a little secret....Before I became a mom I felt like I had it somewhat together. I was comfortable where I was in life. I felt like I could handle being a mom. "This is going to be a breeze!", I thought. "How hard can it be to take care of a little baby?". (Yeah, I was THAT naive.) I thought I was fairly balanced. And you know what? I was! I was balanced! It was just Jared and I. I could have the whole house cleaned and a dinner on the table in an hour! I had "me" time! I had time to read, I wrote in my journal consistently, I was a good friend, I made meals for others, etc. Then along came Gracie. I had never been happier! The first time I held her I laughed because I was so happy! She is perfect. And I love her so much! After Grace was a couple months old I kept thinking, when am I going to get back on track? I feel so off balance! And Let me tell you, I've never gotten "back on track". Whatever that is. And my life is has been CONSTANTLY off balance since.

I always thought that balance would come. And I looked around me at all of these other moms who seemed to have it all together, and I would just cry. Obviously I was doing something wrong. Why couldn't I be like those moms? Why was I so off balance all of the time? Grace is 17 months now. And I just BARELY got over the whole "On/off balance" thing. This is where Time Out For Women helped me. And let me share the little message I received.

Olivia (my little sister. Who is not so, Me, Emily Watts, My Bff Danielle, and My Bff Shalamar.

The speaker was Emily Watts. She is amazing! She graduated from the University of Utah and has been an editor for Deseret Book Company for more than 30 years. She has 5 kids and is now the senior editor for Deseret Book. She's the author of four inspirational books: Being the Mom, Take Two Chocolates and Call Me in the Morning; Confessions of an Unbalanced Woman; and I Hate it When Exercise Is the Answer. Don't all of those books sound Undone? I love it.

Anyways. She told a story of when her and her husband took a small vacation to the California Coast. One day they decided to do a "Segway Tour" along the beach with a tour guide. Now, if you don't know what a Segway is, it's a smart scooter that you stand on and when you lean forward on the balls of your feet, it moves forward. When you lean on the heels of your feet, it slows down. When you're in perfect balance, the Segway doesn't move. Here is a picture of a Segway.

The tour guide taught Emily and her husband how to use a Segway and then they proceeded up and down the coast. She said it was beautiful and calming. She did say, however, before she began the story, that she's not very coordinated. In anything. So the ending of the story was that she turned a corner on the Segway and got thrown off. Which resulted in a broken arm and a black and blue face. She showed us a picture of her broken self on the big screen. And to my surprise...she had a ginormous smile on her face. Her poor face was bruised to kingdom come and her arm was all casted and slinged. Yet. She was smiling. She related this Segway experience to life. She said that life is like a Segway. When we are pushing forward on the Segway, we are off balance. Yet, we are progessing towards something. Towards a purpose. But. When we are in perfect balance on the Segway, we are stopped. We don't move. There is no progression. If we are feeling off balance, then we are progressing! We have a purpose. We might get thrown off and broken at times, but we are progressing! If we are just in balance all the time, then what are we learning/progressing towards? I think we can all agree that we want to learn and progress and feel like we have a purpose in life. So that means taking risks. Feeling off balance. All of the time! But smiling as we go along!

That is the message that struck me SO hard. Here I was, thinking that I was accomplishing nothing. Craving that balance that I had before I was a mother. Thinking that I was a bad wife and mother. FOR 17 MONTHS!!! You guys. For 17 months I've felt this way. It's good to know now, though, that my unbalance means that I'm learning and progressing towards a better me. I am a good wife and mother. I may have a few extra baby lbs to lose. And there may or may not be gold fish crumbs all over my living room carpet. I may be off balance 24/7. But that means I'm doing something good for myself as well as others. I'm becoming a better me. Because, if it weren't for trials and hardships, then like the Segway at balance, we would be progressing towards nothing. Learning nothing. Balance= static. No progression. Off Balance= Progression. Taking risks. Being Undone. So. The bottom line is: If you feel off balance at times, or all the time. That means you are becoming a better you. This is normal. Some of us aren't as good as hiding our topsy-turvy lives. The purpose of this blog is to inspire and let you know that you're not alone. If you feel Undone at times (or all the time) thats ok! You're doing something right! Take the off balance/undone-ness and learn from it. I'm trying to live my life the best that I can. I'm gaining knowledge to pass down to Grace. And that feels good. I am a good wife, mom and human. I hope that this post has helped you feel that you aren't alone. Being alive is hard! lol! But day by day, we are learning. Progressing towards our best self. Be Off Balance! Be Undone. Be you!

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Sick Leave {Frequent Frustrations}

If there's one thing about motherhood that doesn't rock, it's that you can't call in sick. Yesterday I wasn't feeling my best. I wasn't knock down, drag out, full fledged sick, (thank Zeus!) but I was feeling tired and yucky, which is not fun. All I wanted to do was be alone and read my gross zombie book with no sounds or distractions until bedtime. Unfortunately my family had other plans for me.

Quinn decided it was a good day not to nap and be extra needy. Then Darren stayed late at work, so there was no relief.  Even when he did make it home, Quinn and Parker still need me for everything. Quinn was dragging me up and down the stairs and all around the kitchen so I could grab random things for her, and Parker can't find anything ever (and neither can Darren), so there was no peace for me. Not to mention I was tripping over toys and shoes with every step. At least we ordered pizza for dinner, so there was one solace.

Blah. If only I could have called in and spent the day in bed. Is that really too much to ask? It's rough being the one who keeps everything running, because when you're undone, EVERYTHING and EVERYONE else comes undone too. I was on the verge of tears just wishing I could have some time to myself. If anyone else in the house was feeling yucky they'd have no problem getting their relaxation time, but mom's have it different I guess.  I'm glad it was only a slight case of the yuckies though, and I'm feeling much better today. I don't want to think about the state my house or my mind would be in if I need two days off!

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Postpartum Depression {Daily Diaries}

I have been struggling with the decision to post about this or not. This is hard for me to talk about since I try to stay positive, up beat and fun to be around,  But I finally came to the conclusion that it is not something that anyone should be ashamed about. I have also learned that sometimes we just need to know there is someone else in the world that is going through the same thing. That has the same feelings. Same Trials. To know we are not alone and that is why today I am getting very undone and very Real. I am Whitney and I suffer from Depression and Postpartum Depression. I say both because they are different and I have had to go through them both at different times. This is not a post to be all negative and sad, or to get pity this is to educate, to give someone the hope they need and to be real. Lets start from the beginning.

Looking back now I think I have suffered from depression for a long time. Throughout my teen years for sure. I didn't really know that is what it was at the time. I thought it was normal and I thought if I called it depression that was just an excuse and not even a real thing. Fast forward to a doctors appointment I had before I got married. After the routine visit was done the Doctor asked me if there was any other questions or anything else that I needed to talk to her about. I wasn't going to bring it up. I felt dumb. Ashamed. But for some reason of all the times I had been to the doctor this one time I finally had a moment of courage and decided to tell her what I was feeling. We got into a good discussion. She told me this what nothing to be embarrassed about, and that it is a very real thing that people, including me. have to deal with. She gave me a lot of options and we finally decided on me trying out a very mild medication. It helped and I think it was very right for me at the time. That is not the best option for everyone but it was for me at that very specific time in my life. After taking the medication for about a year I decided it was time to stop and see what happened if I tired other methods such as having me time (quiet time to really sort out my feelings, mediate if you will), and to exercise. Exercising has been the best method for me as of to date. When I am not fresh from having a baby exercise is what makes me feel my best. When exercise is a regular part of my life I feel happier, and the anxiety and depression are much more manageable. I don't think it will ever go away, it is something I will probably have to deal with my entire life, but I am able to manage it.

Now onto the subject of Postpartum. I have heard people say this is just the baby blues, or just a cry out for attention but I am here to tell you it is very real. The baby blues are real too and very common but postpartum is beyond the baby blues. I had it with my first baby and I felt dumb and didn't really know what it was so I didn't talk to anyone for a while. I finally did and I am so glad because I was able to get through my days, I was able to enjoy my baby and I was able to do what I needed to do to take care of my sweet Maddux. The next time around with Holden I started it even before I had him when I was still pregnant so I told my Dr. right away and he put me on the medicine right when I started feeling the same way. I wanted to enjoy my sweet babies, I wanted the crying all day long over nothing to stop, and I wanted the pain to stop and for me the medication worked. With Maddux I was able to ween off of it when he was a year old so I am hoping I will be able to do that again this time around. I am enjoying my babies, my emotions are under control and I am able to be the happier me that I want to be. Do not be afraid to talk to someone about it. Know you are not alone. If you feel like you don't have anyone to talk to about this you can always talk to me. I have been through it. I can listen. You can email me any time ( or call me. I know what it feels like to need someone to talk to so I would love to be there for you.

For those of you suffering from depression talk to someone. For those of you who are not, be there for those who are and be sensitive to their condition. 

I have my good days and I have my bad. I have many blessings and I have trials like everyone else. This is mine and I am learning how to deal with it the best I can. I learn from it and to press forward with a positive out look on life. I try to focus on the positive and all the many goods and blessings I have in my life. My life is blessed. I am enduring.

Monday, February 4, 2013

5:50 PM on a Friday {Roll Call}

Friday night is the kick off to the weekend, and who doesn't love that? Of course we do at Undone! Come see what we were doing and wearing just before 6 o'clock on this fun Friday!

{The UNDONE Blog} Real Life Mom Fashion - 5:50 PM on a Friday

Read more and find out the details of our days

Friday, February 1, 2013

Product Favorites! {Daily Diaries}

So this whole week I've been debating on what to write about. And I was coming up with NO ideas! It's so frustrating when you get writers block! So I turned to some of my Facebook friends and they sent  me in the Hair and Makeup direction! SO! I thought that I would share just SOME of my favorite Hair, Skin, and Makeup Products. So, here you go!

Sorry, the photo is dark and blurry. What can I say? I'm a hairdresser, not a photographer. But don't you worry! I will tell you what each product is and why I like it! From left to right.

-Unite Beach Day. This is a texturizing spray that I usually use on second day hair. It just adds some life to my limp hair second day hair and gives it a fresh look. It's kind of like a "coconut-beach hair" spray that you see on pinterest, but it's a ton better and it actually smells nice. You can also use it on damp hair to give you nice beach waves, or you can spray it on the roots of your hair before blow drying to give your hair extra volume. This stuff is magical. You can't buy Unite anywhere except for in select salons. If you want to know where, leave a comment and I will direct you to a salon :)

-True Blue. This is a shea butter body cream from Bath and Body works. I won't lie to you, this product feels super oily at first. I usually put this on right after I get out of the shower or right before I go to bed. I hate the feeling of oily hands. But my skin is so dry right now with this sick Utah weather. Like, cracked hands and feet dry. This never happens to me! I guess it's because I'm getting older? Blah. Anyways. It smells like coconut. And it clears up my dry skin. Try it!!!

-Unite 7Seconds to Condition. I LOVE this product. I spray it on my hair after every time I wash it. It gives my dry hair extra moisture. Like I said, this Utah weather sucks the life right out of my body! Everything is so dry! This product literally seals the cuticle and protects your hair from all of the pollutants and harsh weather. It's a must have for my hair. I can't live without it. Like I said, if you want to know where to buy Unite, let me know and I will help you find a salon near you :)

-Maybeline Falsies Mascara. I love this mascara! The brush is AWESOME! And the formula is really light. It doesn't feel like I'm caking mascara on my lashes. This wand sweeps your lashes outward so you get a "winged" look. Meaning that the lashes on your outer corner are flared and long. And I love that look! Everyone has their favorite mascara and it's hard to try something new, but I promise, try this stuff and you will love it!

-Eyes Lips Face neutral eyeshadow palette. Thats right! I use ELF products. Some ELF products are better than others and I was pretty skeptical when I bought this palette. But it has proven itself worthy of a spot on my vanity! I bought this palette at TJMaxx for $15! Can you believe that?! One little eyeshadow from Mac costs that much! I'm really impressed with product and I love the colors that this palette provides. Remember, always use a primer before you apply any eyeshadow. It will make your eyeshadow last all day long and it won't crease! My favorite primer is "Painterly Paint Pot" from Mac. It's expensive, but it will last you for forever! Invest in a good primer!

-bareMinerals foundation (not pictured, I can't find it! I blame Gracie.), warmth, and mineral veil. This stuff is awesome! I have super sensitive skin. And this product gives me the coverage and dimension that my face desperately needs. The formula is so gentle that you can sleep in it. And lets be honest. By the end of the day, who wants to wash their makeup off? I know I don't! I brush my teeth while I'm half asleep and thats all I can muster before I hit the hay. And this stuff lasts all day long! I bought my kit at Macys. It came with those three powders, two brushes, one concealer brush and brush cleaner. I think all of it was $60. Which is a screaming deal. I've seen it at TJMaxx before, I don't know how much it was. But Take a look around. Just make sure you get the right shade. If you go to the bareMineral counter at Macys (or wherever) they will match the foundation to your skin tone and give you some helpful hints on contouring. I love bareMinerals!

Too Faced Pixie Pinup palett- Another great eyeshadow palette. And lets be honest, what too faced product isn't good? Everything I've bought from too faced is AWESOME! You can't go wrong. It's quality is just like Mac. It's definitely more expensive. But the quality is great. Can you tell what colors I use the most? lol! You can find too faced at Sephora or Ulta.

Mac Blush in PeachTwist: I love Mac makeup. It's no secret. And this is my favorite blush. Perfect warmth for winter and perfect glow for spring and summer. I use it year round. It's great!!! You know where you can find Mac :)

bigsexyhair Spray & Play hairspray: I adore aerosol hairspray. Especially Big Sexy. It has great hold. I usually only use it for my updos and ponytails as a finishing spray because it dries hard and is a little heavy. But, like I said, it has great hold. And if you're kid is anything like gg, you need a good hairspray for your pony tail. She loves me mess with my hair and bigsexy helps keep it in place all day! I've found bigsexy at TjMaxx as well. Can you tell that I shop there frequently?

Pink Sugar Perfume: So, after I became a mommy I worried about the perfume I would wear. I am a freak and over think everything. I thought the current perfume I was using (flower bomb) was a little too much for a small infant to be inhaling while I nursed. SO I searched for another perfume that was light and pleasant for a baby to smell. (I can not NOT wear perfume. I feel weird without it. Am I alone in this?) And I found this little gem. It smells like sugar! lol! Well, if I could pinpoint any smell, it would be cotton candy. But it's a really light smell. It doesn't smell like your head is being shoved in a cotton candy maker, or anything. It's just a really sweet, feminine, pleasant smell. Jared likes it a lot :) You can find it at Sephora or Ulta.

Dove Hair Therapy Damage Control: I love this Shampoo and Conditioner! It makes my hair feel silky smooth. And the price is just right. After I quite my job so I could become a full time mom, our budget drastically changed. I used to buy shampoo that was like $30 a bottle. (I know, don't judge) So,when my last bottle of expensive shampoo was used up, I didn't know what to do. I decided to try a little bit of this and a little bit of that. I had no luck!!! All store bought shampoos and conditioners sucked! Then I discovered Dove. It saved my life! (well, my hairs life.) You can literally feel the moisture seeping into your hair and it smells so good! You can buy this at any grocery store, OR you can buy it at Costco in bulk! It comes in a huge bottle with a pump. It's like $10 a bottle. But it will last you forever!

WELL! There you have it! I hope this post was of some help to you ladies! I'm a product junkie. And I would love to share more helpful hints and tips. Would you gals like that? Also, I'm thinking of doing some quick makeup/hair tutorials. What would you like to see? Fast Beach Waves? A quick smokey eye? A 5 minute updo? Give me some ideas and I will post a tutorial soon!


Pin It button on image hover